Wherever you go, there you are.
This is one of the most difficult and personally empowering realizations of a lifetime.
You spend so much of your youth wondering and dreaming about your Mr. or Ms. Right. Imagining your happily ever after, only to find out that romantic relationships are work. That no matter who you wind up with, there is a hill to climb, sometimes a mountain.
And the hardest work in relationship can be the inner work, because, like it or not, there is nothing like romantic relationship to bring out your evil twin. You know the one with the insecurities, fears and obsessive compulsive traits that come out with a vengeance when your partner leaves their socks on the floor.
In your younger days you could explain away relationship hopping with, “It's not me, it's you.” Until you began to get inklings of déjà vu in the next relationship, and the next.
You see, wherever you go, there you are.
And until you bring healing to the relationships of your past, you will continue to relive the past in your present relationships. If you leave a relationship without getting to the heart of why you chose it in the first place, you will find the same issues in the next one.
Wherever you go, there you are.
The key to bringing healing to your romantic relationship, whether you are currently in one or not, is to actively practice forgiveness. Don't get me wrong, forgiveness is not about denying that another person's actions may have been inconsiderate or hurtful. It is not about justifying any behavior. It is about choosing to let go of the negative feelings that keep you trapped in resentment, hurt and argument, so that you don't continue to relive the painful experience.
Forgiveness is a conscious decision to shift focus from a negative experience to other more positive parts of your life.
The question to ask is, are you holding on to past pain and resentments from romantic partners, past and present? What is keeping you from opening fully to love and intimacy today?
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